1. install vnc: yinst install ports/vnc

2. make sure you have ssh-agent running first before starting the vnc server:
ssh-agent bash
ssh-add
* then kill the terminal window.

3. edit this file first:

$HOME/.vnc/xstartup
put the following there
xrdb $HOME/.Xresources
/bin/sh /home/usr_local/bin/startkde

4. command to start vnc server on your unix box:
vncserver -geometry 1280x1024 -depth 24 :1


here is a copy of the contents of my file:
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#!/bin/sh

xrdb $HOME/.Xresources
#xsetroot -solid grey
#xterm -geometry 80x24 10 10 -ls -title "$VNCDESKTOP Desktop" &
#twm &
xmodmap -e "pointer = 3 2 1"
/usr/X11R6/bin/vncconfig -nowin &
/bin/sh /home/usr_local/bin/startkde

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